#133: Church Chat, Cheating & Wedding Gifts

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Speaker 1: Says Elvis Durand Presents Off Air Showery Jones and Greg T Episode one three. Yeah it is. You know, I had to check my iTunes to see if it really is episode That's right. We are there now. We're also on Google Play. Yeah we are you gonna catch the off Fair show on I Heart Radiolvis duran dot com. Yeah, anywhere podcasts are sold, right, that's what they say. I'm scary, yo, Greg T. I'm over here now. Okay, first of all, could you stop saying that? No, okay, no, we gotta stop, all guys. I am gonna call Andrew Dice Clay, the comedian who come on? Do you who originated that? He didn't? I don't believe. Okay, I'm gonna call him up and I'm gonna have him call this freaking show. Give me a promise. He is going to know you already it down. I'm gonna I'm gonna contact his people. He's easily accessible because he's doing nothing. Don't he's doing. He's doing comedy. Play that back to him right there where he's playing the local circuit. Okay, I can hardly wait to hear him shares here with us high Share Today why you could you google Andrew Dice cllect toward night dates real quick? Yeah, I'd like to find out. And not in the area. You your you lie. He's around, He's around, he's toward the country. I'll say it again. I'm over here now. Oh, you might owe him a royalty every time you say that. Be careful. That would be a problem. Starry Jones over there now, so you can always Now, you can always get in touch with us at the Fair Show at gmail dot com. You could get in touch with us on Instagram and Twitter at the off Fair Show and of course the Affair Show on Facebook along with the Off Fair Nation of Fair Army page. We got like several Facebook pages. Jacklobe to all, Hey, did you just see that we got invited? Bill Burke, It's wedding, dude, How much of an honor is that? Seriously? He says, it's wait, let me get some music. He has some music for that, wedding. Wedding bells, wedding bells music, give me something. He's getting married. He's he's diving in Okay, hold on a second, right now, diving and why why do you want to do it? Okay? And this Andrew dice clay thing. I think this might be a bummer, but I don't think that's happening exactly. It's coming up with stuff from thank you. I don't know. I don't know, but I don't know if you should say it anymore because he might be looking for it. Then you know, I'm telling him, I'm serious. I'm gonna find him. We're going to find him, and we're gonna find him. Now. Can I put my p I cap on and find Andrew? Look, the priest is walking through. Why have palking through the studios? Wow? I don't know. Bless me, father, for I have sin. Oh my god. He should not hear the topic years since my last confession. Maybe we can ask him, what is your topic? What is your talking about? My topics about infidelity? We should have had the priest in here, Manabe, but he's gonna cringe and everything. Why do you Why do you raise an eyebrow when I say it's been twenty five years, it's my last confession. What was your last confession? Gregt t? Really? What was your share? I'm a good little Catholic girl. I got a church every week. You were in church on Sunday. I wasn't church on? Say? I was? I? I go to church in Beverly Hills and here when I'm in New York, give me churche bell forget, let's go to church. Take me to church. Give me what's that song? Oh? Take me to church, Take me to ye, take me to church. I want to hear all about it. Oh my god, how you go to church? Don't? I try to go every Sunday and I do stop. Give me to charge. I swear shares, gonna take us a church. Listen. I have a lot to I have a lot to break for her and be thankful for her. Come on now, so where do you go to church? I go to church I St. Mary St. Thomas Thomas saying something. And I go to church and wait, wait, I go to church in Beverly Hills. Acroads from Rodeo is an amazing beautiful church. Well well, I do have to laugh. It is. It is sometimes a bit of an entertainment flock, and it's pretty and celebrities in church. I actually have been to church with Mark wolburg Um and there's been some other people and including um. Who who is the other person that recently I had a make up a good name, make up a good name. No, No, Tony Blair was there the last time that they were in for the Milk and conferences, which is about a year ago. All of a sudden a lot of big, high profile business people were in and Tony Blair wasn't there. Apparently had just converted. I'm gonna put you on the spot. Do you go to church and wait? We'll give everybody church church who aren't go on? Oh my god, if this priest doesn't you know, I think we should all do a little praying in this podcast. Don't we have any sound effection? I don't have that. I have taken the church organ? Is that good church organ? What about the bell? Give me the bell? You have an underneath counter bell, don't you under the counter? Yeah, you got it. This is a desk that is not the right bell. That's like a bell to ring when you're waiting for somebody. That a counter, that's not the way a church that all sounds? Amen? That stop it? Yes it is. This is when you're in a hotel and you need service. Everybody pay up. So and I already know what you're gonna say, mystery. I want to ask your question. I want to ask you a question. Hold on, because we got on the church top of be honest. Yeah, you go to church in Beverly Hills, you go, you go for this obviously there are some celebrities there. Do you also go to church here on the East Coast knowing there are no celebrities there? Yeah, and I don't. I do know, I do, and I actually have had I've had a lot of Listen. I have spent plenty of time in synagogues too, because I I actually grew up in an area that was predominantly jis Listen. I am Catholic, but come on, we don't have any more. The point is, The point is whatever religion you are, I do think at times it's nice to go and I think it's nice to switch it up. And I was. I grew up in a family where we actually celebrated for both ideaism and being Catholic. So I love it. I actually really love synagogue. And you've gone to church, Yeah, you go to church. I'm all about it. What does that mean? That's that's a prayer for a couple of brakat That's okay. So all right, so you do go to church and you're there, you I do think you were there on Sunday. You told me I was there on Sunday. I think I texted to give me back while I was at your text while you're in church. No, I texted prior and then scary. It was getting off a plane, I think from extry responding to we were trying to talk about what we're going to talk about today, but right we were talking about the off air. Shall couldn't leave your phone in the car for an hour? No, no, no, I texted prior to church. You couldn't give God just forty minutes time. I give him an hour of my time. I do. However, the phone is always by my side. I just don't respond all the time. I don't think it's great, like when you're really like when you when you're with that person and you're really romantic and you always yell his name, oh God, oh God, oh God. You must be walking around coverings like I can't anymore. I was, ye God, you s that you were you were God, that you were at Catholic. Actually I kind of t back to, is that's getting nervous about the fact that I'm like, oh God, oh God, here we go, here we go. Oh boy. Off airheads. Here we go, this is this is going the other direction, which is God, Oh God, Oh God, Oh right there, Oh God, to be thankful for him. We all need a little prayer. As you can tell here. I got to be getting the church topic we're talking about. No, we want to go to the wedding. We want to read Bill Barking broke his wedding information. It's Burke, Burke, keep up the great work on the podcast The Future is Bright. Attached as an invite for you guys to be at my wedding. It's imputa Kana in March first Fair show from the Caribbean, sign built back and phone number. Looking at the picture, first of all, is very cute. That's not a compliment. Really, she's a ten. He would have Greg Tea would have jumped out of his skin and be like, she's hot. But he didn't say that she's cute. I didn't want to try. I'm not being rude. Don't tell you why, woman's counsel. Hold on, Let's ask the woman if it was that good and defend myself. Cute If he said, guy, fortunately, I know you're you do tend to jump out of your skin when you're excited for you. The reaction of oh my god, or shake in or doing something. It's kind of like. So the fact that she said he said she's cute, her hops out of tease mouth would imply something less than oh my god. I wanted to she's a six. In all honesty, I would like it to fetter myself, and I would like to say that I barely know Burke and I don't I don't know his fiance and I'm not gonna put her on blast like that because I don't know her very cordial and I'm like, wow, she's really cute, so I dialed it back, but she really is. She's beautiful, hot. Okay, you know her if you know Brook for years. Damn, dude, looking at tasaw everything, dude, I'll cough everything first. She's awesome looking, Okay, beautiful. I gotta give him that she is polite, and that might have been I have a polite word coming out. I don't know her in that way, so I don't want to put her on blast and make her feeling showed restraint and decor there we got wow, so we have a lot of respect. And I wasn't implying that that your girl is not hot dinner I was. I was just saying, when you call a girl cute, generally speaking, you're not calling her hot, you know. Yeah, yeah, people should find other words. It's becoming a thing now too. That that's another that's another topic. Are door, Yeah, names are have to be very careful what you actually signify with people, because at this point it's our classified people. You ever cuffed the boy next door, the girl next door? You ever cuff? Never cuffed the young next door. No, that's like that. You don't you know, you don't where you eat. You know that you you don't want to have that drama. The closest I came to that once was almost agony, and I actually had to um not let him know that I was across the street. He didn't know I was in a building in Beverly Hills. What was the closest neighbor you cuffed? How close were they across the street? Is a high rise in Beverly Hills. And I was like, oh my god, But it was somebody I was dating. It wasn't about anything else about the girl next door. The legitimate like like here, I grew up in one house, in a blue house and then in the yellow house right next door was Resi Mac the lord's was the girl next door. No, we never cuffed. I got a quick little kiss and that was it. She was my first real kiss, my first t girl next door year old grandmother on one side of me, so that was not happening. On the other side was um, yeah, a girl, a girl who was about thirteen years old. So yes, I wasn't What about two doors down, at least two doors down on either way? No good really because in Brooklyn and we had nothing there really. Yeah. Actually I feel like in Brooklyn you got everybody's real creel houses. Yeah. Yeah, see I didn't have that, so it's a little different. That's why I'm giving him the past by saying, look, look, if she was like, you know, five doors, you're still You're still fine. That's still good that you're on the same street. You're good. Seriously, Yeah, well you know what, I don't know about that, but three doors down. But nobody even knows three doors down. Nobody on me. Now, this is a romantic you just like I'm going to war in military day. This is right now, Omar and Marine Dan here like, yeah, this is like a military song. This is a This is not a milit This is called here without here. They played at the inauguration this year they played for the president. Man, they don't agree with me. Inauguration the Podus. They like about this, and everybody turned them down. The Three Doors Down was like, yeah, they played for the Potus Flags up, flags up, USA. That's it America. You know what you guys? You laugh? Yeah, but you think that that's their only song. They're had military songs here without you. Yeah, I'm here with that right exactly. But just hold on, what about the military men that are overseas there singing this to their wives and girlfriend's back home? What are this? What is that that's taking to church? And what are you doing? I'll be back on church. Let's because of that priest step walked by. That's what started that today when dead right, another military sish is a hit from Three Doors Down. There's a military some military fan swall from the military. All of them. All these songs are all driven for the men and women are fighting over seat. Are they really this? I didn't know that. I did not sound like a joke of dude. They've played plate for the botis and the ad, the Bodis. How about this song here hold On? This is their biggest hit right tonight. This is fine. Yeah, all of the words on Kryptonite. Christ hang On, that's his name is sp listening? Do you never saw the video? I don't know that man. If I did, if you're gonna start going down this road with three doors down, come on, man, it couldn't have been down memorable. He's my trouble man Kryptonite telling people this is like popular with them. Yeah, they love the star absolutely. By the way, speaking a military people, big shout out to uh Marine Dan who had some surgery a couple of days ago. He's now resting fine and recovering. Thank you for Marie Breen. Dan, you know what I mean. Okay, but you are you are right. It does talk all about um watch three drs Downs performance of Kryptonite from Donald Trump's Black America Grade. Again. I am wrong with the song though, but the song is saying that it really talks about Superman. A military to Superman's Yes, but the military men and women have embraced this song as like they are Superman, you know, and they're fighting. Yeah. I'm seriously got their their kryptonite. So They're like top and their force falling the air for who they were there right next to Abraham Lincoln. They were jamming on the on the on the wrack, jamming with Lincoln. Yeah, alright, so I'm sitting I think military anyway, So I want to we want to thank Bill Burkett for inviting us to his his wedding. I don't know if we can be there was very nice. Now, I got a question for you. Now, if we're speaking of wedding, what is proper etiquette? This is actually a big problem going on in my world. I was told that it's okay to decline an invitation to a wedding and then just forget about it. But some people say that proper etiquette would be you say no, and then within one year's time you must send them a gift. Do you have to? Because if that's the case, I must have pissed a lot of people off over the years because I didn't think it was necessary. I'll give you some examples. Well, I guess this is a question for share knows a share no question. I think it's just a scruples or an ethical question. I would say that you would if you like this person, but you can't make it, then you would send him a gift. If you don't send a gift, you're clearly laying that. You know, you're laying the law. You're drawing the line saying we no longer our friends. I'm not giving you anything that's not necessarily true. Okay, I mean, think about it for a second. You get invited to a wedding. That's what he does. He kicks out a question share right, and then and then he goes then he wants to rephrase it. Think about. He's gonna continue to push. He's got this square peg and scared is gonna jam it, jam jam it right that round hole. Just so I'm just like, like, it doesn't work. He asked me jam it, but you can't. You can't ask somebody what do you think? And then I tell you you think about it. That's not screw That is true. I know my own mind that what I'm doing is the right. That's exactly. And he's not really asking me. He wants confirmation that he has not screwed up, that I fucked cut you all right, buddy. I owe him again. I owe him a wedding president because I couldn't make it to his wedding when I was on the boat with him. Yeah, I didn't get to go to that. Yeah, here's something that I think t I think he brought up something that's very true. The idea is is that naturally, if you're invited somebody's weddings, you'd assume that you're somebody that's close to them and they really wanted you to be a part of the day. This isn't somebody that's just thrown out six invitations, you're nothing right. You have a relationship with this person, and you'd assume that if you couldn't make it, you still felt like you wanted to give them something for their special day, just the memory pieces. But it doesn't have to be something overdone. It doesn't have to be maybe what you would have given had you gone, something something that's thoughtful. And if you do go, you know, some people feel like when they do go to some of these weddings, even if they're like travel weddings, are you're they're the getaway weddings. Sometimes they even say, you know, not to bring a gift, and people bring just a little token thing. And you know what I heard that further south from the Try state that it is much more common to bring a gift than it is to give somebody somebody a monetary donation like that. All right, But to answer your question, I do feel that I grew up knowing that within six months actually you would give a gift. I I actually don't know about the year mark, but I knew within six months, because after that it kind of looks like you've forgotten. O g is I gotta just throw you something because I can think of four people in my head whose weddings I didn't go to. Then I didn't get gifts for. So now I'm thinking, well, listen, for instance, Cubby, Uh, I don't know if I should tell you this, but he's planning a picnic like a barbecue at his new house. Right. Have have you been invited? No? I didn't get that invite. There you go. So obviously there's a reason he's written you off. You didn't give me his picnic. It is um, it's come up, but it's actually it's actually like in a week. It's it's in a week. It's not can have he didn't fight? Right now? But I'm just saying that's the truth the way. The second, why wouldn't he invite me to his picnic. Well, because why did you give him a freaking gift? You didn't give him a crap. I'll call him up right now. I wouldn't bring him on the air. I would not do that. Don't do don't do it. I wouldn't do it. That's uncomfortable for me. Wait, who else is going to this picnic? There's a lot of people going, Oh, I don't know, the Scotty be going. Of course he's going. Of course he's picnic. The cruise gonna go, defense's gonna be as a major radio figure, who friend of ours. It's just the beginning. There's some record reps gonna be there and things that that's gonna be. Anybody else from the show, I don't know. I don't think so that sucks. I don't think so. Well, why would do you think that he's holding it over my head? I would think that he probably feels like you ruffled some feathers and he got married, and do you he gave me, invited you, and you gave him freaking nothing. I know, but I couldn't make it to I was out of town that weekend. Again, we just discussed the share. We not discussing a full year we were working. He was not listening. He hasn't been marrying. He hasn't been married a full year though you're not a year. So well, you see him every freaking day. That's list O. You list you want to be on somebody's io, You list like, who are you right? Hearing? But he's not listening to get invited before you to this. He's not listening. I'm like, I don't know what the dud and no kids allowed, all adults kind of thing, Like it's gonna be like that's the hook, that's that's gonna be backwards language, the whole thing. That's right, roasting a pig. It's gonna be like, you know, craziness. What's the date on this? I can't tell you because then you'll show up and you can't be there because he invite you. I'm not wait a second, and he probably also knows the etiquette that if this is a housewarming, you're gonna probably bring a little something there, right, Okay, So again sure brings up a point. It's not called a housewarming, it hasn't really been said. But if you haven't been to his house, like I haven't been there, then obviously you'll bring some because he just moved into the house. He he's denying me the opportunity to make up the fact that I haven't given him a second chance he gave because had he invited me, I would not only bring a gift for the housewarming, but I would give him his wedding gift there too. I don't understand about that. It's about giving me the opportunity to make it up to him. Why would hold on back up chair he now wants an opportunity to make it up. Why does he have to give you anything? Hey, hey, friendship, it's a friendship thing. I don't hold grudges. If you forgot my stuff, I would I would still Invitehi because he's still a friend of mine. In the room, in the room, do you think maybe is Martie coming? Martie just walked in. I would guarantee that she hasn't. Morty's our favorite record rep. I would guarantee, and she has an invite guarantee this. I cannot go into that kind of upset. I'm a little pissed, bro, you cuffed up? How do you know you might have to make a phone call talk to him and his new significant other. He's not gonna say no if you call him, how rude is that? But then you're gonna put him on a spot that's awkward. I could invite, cannot do that. I cannot impart myself. Maybe, but you should maybe make up for at least the fact that you kind of ignored. It's specially I didn't to me. I didn't like to check and wipe as at this point? What is this? Please? I'm just bad at a sending a gift after the thing has happened. But I do want to give I do want to hook him up. I do want to make it right. When do you want to do that? His party would have been the perfect opportunity from you cannot tell somebody? Share? What? What do you have? The conversation it'll go on for nine hours. He doesn't understand. Do you think that's scary? I'll address Tea with this. Do you think scary would have bought an extra gift if he did get invited to this house gathering because he assumed that he forgot the wedding gift? Like, would you have thought that was the right moment then to bring it both Jeopardy music, Jeopardy music? Well, well, share, let me well I think I'd like to have some music in the back y I need right, Let's say I'll give you some music. Okay, give you the music, and then I'm gonna think the years and years you have known him in the form of a question, less half? Less half? Would he bring both gifts? What he bring both gift to this? Okay, I'm gonna buzz it. I'm ready. Okay, thing um, I would say that Scary would go over the top and bring both gifts? He would bring torch would be could you make me see that I'm being a good guy? I could the throwing. I know you very well that that's what you would do, because you know what you know Scary does. Scary it really thinks of the thoughtful gift. He thinks of something that's like brings monetary value, like he has to go over the top financially that he thinks that's what blows people away and they go it does what it does? Are like, she's a little materialist? Are you both like? Wait a second, hold on, who's the one that brought in the gifts? Let's not go back to uh February fourteen. Okay, where I bought in the Little Heart and it was all about the thought and not about anything else or or scary. You did come through for that. So I have to say, I think your quality of gift giving is there. You maybe a little late on the draw some time, but major quality to bring in expensive gifts, say both of you. Anyway, all right, well we'll clear up the cubby. For many years people would have babies running here and scared. We go to Tiffany's and get like a big like like a gift that means nothing, but but it's some Tiffany's and he thinks that's what would do it? Like he got Danielle like some silver spoon. I guarantee you that's the spoon that is. That is he got him a Tiffany's baby spoon. And I guarantee that thing is in a box somewhere in the attic. I guarantee if you asked Danielle where that was, she would tell you it's in the attic instead of a one sie In other words, right, see like that a bit more to face A couple of silver spoon You know what I do a kine, oh my god, together just sul spoons to get Here's what I do when I find somebody hold on, Share Share. It was like, what the funk was that? First of all, I'm just a nof right now because I have no idea what you guys are saying. That was an eighties TV show called Silver Spoons. Do you know who the star of Silver Spoons was? Ricky Schroeder? Are you kidding? You don't know? I didn't realize, do you share? What I do would expect the dads is this, and I think this is really great. You'll appreciate this. I go to the store and I buy a little plastic like a tupe of were kind of like, um, I don't know, like a like a box, like a plastic box, but not very big like a shoe box size, but plastic, you know. And then I go to the counter or whatever, and I buy triple double ds uh c's um D batteries A batteries, triple as batteries. I buy all these batteries, all these batteries, and I put them inside and I wrap it all up at all these batteries. So you know what happens is when you get a kid, you're gonna also gonna get a ton of stuff that always needs one batteries batteries, right, and you have no idea all these and all these dads, they're gonna go, oh my god, I need batteries, and then they're gonna go get their their box filled the batteries like that red back to see. That's so shallow of you. I'm like, I wait, can I do bring both share likes to give guests a gift giving? Trish gets an outfit. Trish gets the outfit and and and hands the kids the outfit and whatever that's from her, you bu But from the guys, I give them a screwdriver, a Philip said in a flathead and battery. That's more practical because they're gonna need that. But you know what do you make fun of seriously? Like, I mean, it's the greatest You make fun of the fact that I gave Danielle's firstborn a Tiffany silver spoon. But that was the most beautiful thing I thought, And it was the most underappreciated gift whatever given him with a silver spoon? And what are they gonna do with that? You know what? What? Put it up? Put it in the kid's bedroom and I don't know, on the shelf for something. Do you think it'll stay there? Do you know I have. I have a porridge. I have like a porridge porridge bowl pouringer and and and and a mug surround a porcelain porridge porridge. Wait, I just got like a total visual of a little scary holding O. I got that. I got that for somebody else's child. And it was they said, what the hell is this thing? Do you have two daughters? Okay, I don't want to tell me that. Wait a second, are you to tell me that the sentimental gifts that were given at their at their baptism baptism? Okay, you didn't hold onto some of them and they're not on like a little shelf where you're like, look, get the little cross you got and the really everything is in bins. And maybe I should have gone to babies are Rush and bought a bunch of crap off the clearance rack. Here here, let your kids kip dumps in these. No, they don't get as given to him by the family. They don't even need that either, batteries and they grow out of that ship. They grow out of it in like in like two three, where I do have to say that I think that sometimes the gifts that are more sentimental that do cost and they do look like what you want to call materialistic. They do last, and it's something that the person mean with that. It's this is the difference between me with two kids and both of you and no kids. You guys are clueless. Both of you. You want me to buy like Acacia diapers. No do you never get diapers? Is nothing? You don't even diapers. But yeah, but the same thing with these clothes. You don't get him a nice outfit maybe like baby ups or something they're gonna wear so cute. When your little feteas grow out and they three months to six months, you're screwed. It doesn't matter. It's the cute thought. That's what moms want to see. They want to see little baby uggs, maybe a little baby sweatshirt that says like Harvard like. They want to see that stuff. Right, that's the You guys are clueless, but both of you are so clue. Silver Spoon has made it silver and a lifetime you I can't believe. Okay, but wait a second, baby uggs are expensive, Mr. No materialistic, those are expensive. Like there's some things like if I go into like a little like if I get like or something that's me being materialistic or is that me letting a mother say, oh my god, that was the sweetest thing. Share No has got my child. I cannot believe I'm gonna say this, you guys. Honestly, this is the major difference we agree to disagree between people that have children and people that don't. And you really are and this is I feel bad, but you guys, you mean well, but your gifts are ridiculous at this Yeah, I'm ready getting killed over here with silver spoons stuff and not knowing the show is and materialistic and the priest between the priest and our our little bit of sex talk and everything else. It leads right into our share notes, right and and and married versus unmarried is just talking about now no kids. You just don't have the knowledge. And that's okay. I'm not embarrassing. You're putting it down. You just it's it's impossible for you to know if you don't have the knowledge. Okay, say, listen, do you think I knew when I first had my first child. I've been schooled. I'm housebroken. I had no clue to you a dog the first time I ever changed. I'm in house broke. You know, I brought Jada home from the hospital, right, and I changed Jada on the kitchen sink and she's like, what are you doing? What do you do? I said, well, I'm gonna run the water, I'm gonna get some wet napkins, and I'm gonna wipe her. She just you guys taught each other. And she's like, like, you're not gonna change your daughter on the kitchen sink and use running water. And I'm like, what do you mean. I'm like, I'm gonna keep her but clean. And she laughed and she's like, I get what you're thinking. She goes, go away and just watch what I do. And then I watched. I took notes and then I knew how to do it. So cute. But the first time I was gonna wash her ass and a sink, You're just gonna, oh my god, that's so funny. I did that. I didn't do that, baby, yeah. And and really I had one hand on Jade on the kitchen sink mr Mud then and then on the other one I was working the I was working the water fountain, you know, and I was gonna take some paper towels and wet it and then wet her ass. You know, and then like, what are you doing on the and then she then she showed me wipes and showed me how to do it with wipes and everything. It's the kitchen sink. It took me a couple of weeks to really get the baber the diaper changing down. Well, then after a couple of weeks, I was a master. I grabbed those two legs plomp bang, who take a white new diaper underneath? And now this is great. So when I decided to finally do this and enter into motherhood, I'll make sure to come to you and have you school me on everything. Sare. I'm a gold medalist and changing diapers gold medalist. I don't care. I can get tis on my fingers are taking dumps in his own diaper. He's done that on the floor of the studios, right, I've actually dropped tishe right on the floor here, yeah, right here, sitting I have dropped thee oh my god, right there right there? All right? Okay, So I got I got scary for my high end shopping to come out with me to get gifts. Have you for the fishes? Really and practicalities killed her? I swear to God, I'm a fantastic. Dad Scary dropped Jade on the floor. Was say that without saying yes he did. I had, so I had to go to his apartment one day and I wasn't scared to take my daughter out because I was like, dad, you know. So we went shopping and then I was called Scary said he scar you home, I'm gonna come over, and he goes yes. And then we entered the door and he goes, oh my god, you brought Jada. And I'm like, of course, why not. She's like one years old. So then I said, look, I have to go to the bathroom. Can you just watch her? So we put I put Jade on the couch next to him, and as I'm walking out, he goes, d and what Andy? And Jada is tumbling off the couch onto the floor and I go, what are you doing? Yeah? Crazy? Jada is ten years old. Now. We remind her all the time. I'm like, you know, uncle dentally dropped her kids. He can't. He can't killing you. It was an accident. He asked me to watch her. Okay, that's really she She slipped through my hands, listen through his hands, and she started climbing all over my furniture and listen, I have adult furniture. My furniture. My place is not kid friendly. It's not friendly. Child comes over, they will be dropped on there. I got glass everywhere. I got sharp objects, I got open sockets. Yeah that's what she's ten years old. Now she's over it. We got to get to this because it's scared by. All right, let's get into the share nose. We did that music again, sex? All right, here you are, come on, give me some sexy, give me some Saxe's favorite and spinning. So here we go. This was sentenced No, it's a sentence by. He can always be emails at the author show gmail dot com, or you can drop us a tweet. So anything that Shared talks about, please divulge, get into it. Let us know. We want it. We want every single comment possible. It's really huge for us to advance and do more with Share. So honestly comment than anything. You agree or disagree, It's fine, we we want everything. Go ahead. Okay, guys, so Aaron sent in. Are you ready for this? Alright? So Share knows I need you. I have a problem. So here it goes my friend who is in a relationship and he has a child. He is married to this woman. He said, him and his wife don't have the best relationships. They both have cheated on one another before. But as of lately, he isn't allowed to do anything. He has no bank card, can't go anywhere. He basically works and goes home. He's whipped, well even worse. Hold on, it's worse than it's controlled. So so she has an app on her phone that blow ox the Internet. That's good, okay, and she can monitor his calls and text. Now, Aaron goes golfing with her boss, and while golfing with her boss, he says, between the two of those men, I sure the WIFEI of your buddy he's having it's happening an affair with one of my employees. What yes? So wait so, which would make sense because he adds she never goes home, consistently, goes to the gym late night, goes to work every Saturday, doesn't come home for like six hours even though no one else is working. So my question is, share knows. Do I tell him about this or do I just let it go. I feel like if I don't, I'm gonna really look like a bad friend. Well, here's the thing, first of all, and I want to jump on this if I can. First of all, they both cheated on each other. They both have histories of not being able to trust each other. Seems to be cheating still, Yeah, well I know, but but they both so I could see why he was on lockdown a little bit for a second there. But but here's the problem. She cheated too. And you're usually with this smoke, this fire. And if you're a kind of person who wants to lock someone down, lock someone down and don't do this, don't do that. Usually that means that means your cheer hates. This means if you, if you, because you will always do one too others as you would to yourself. So if you know in your mind that you're cheating, you're like, holy fuck, I better lock down my partner and try and like put them up. So so right away he should have actually thought that there was a problem here, because that right there is very telling the fact that he can't do all these things. I can't have internet, I can't That means okay, he's she's pointing the accusatory finger. That means she must be cheating because you're guilty of doing it. Yourself, so you absolutely take that stand and be more controlling than ever before. But I'm not. But the thing is, there was history there, so she was almost justified for a second in doing it, or a little bit of that. But God almighty, Okay, I'm gonna tell you guys, is this my advice? Tell him, let him know, and then hopefully that will cause the relationship to explode, because it needs to. There's red flags all over this place. Want to carry Underwood site to think? She says something about about cheating. She I mean, you gotta listen to something there. There's some there's some you know, lessons to be learned out there, and they're right under your nose. You have to hear the lessons. Why are you not paying attention to what carry Underwood says before he chats? Before he cheats? Continued, Okay, so here's the deal. Is great, and I think women just because she said before he you can always under you know, switch around, and before she already did. It's too late. Yes, so dance. She's at the gym, champ and she's probably getting she's at work when nobody's there by drink. Okay, so here we go. You're ready, right, now behind where the boost And here's the deal with the share of nos. Rachel with the relationship is scorned. Okay, really he said that to me, Like, what's happen to do? That's right, share, But there's a psychology with all this and scary kind of hit on some of it. Maybe next time it's thanks. We know that relationships can be fixed, right, guys. There's cheating and relationships and sometimes people come out of it and they're fine with it. But here's the key. Both need to stop trust and want to fix it. So I'm not saying things aren't do about but in this case there's a lot more going on here. Get out. The bottom line is she's controlling him because she's still feeling guilty and she's still feeling a leverage that she wants and wants to be able to do as she feels. And the side of it, next time he'll be before I never really thought about that. She took a bag, bashed his headlights about. She's like, really, and you're drinking with some girl that can't even hold her. Yeah, so you make your bed, you lay in it. That's scary, listen. I feel that way about everything with people when they come to me. Remember something, guys, this cher know is kind of puts on her p I cap a little bit. Remember, I've had cases like this come to my my company constantly, where they will say to me, do you think this person is still cheating? I just want to tell you a couple of facts about this though are and the bottom line, no, not at all, because it's men too know the men listen, it's the whole thing around. It's it's with both. And I always stressed this by saying, men and women come to my company and say what am I doing wrong? What could I change? And is this person really doing this? The bottom line is, is somebody that's that accusatory scary you hit the nail on the head. Basically, it's a it's a psychological way of teaching themselves that they're in control of a situation. They feel like they're getting the upper hand. There's actually psychology out there that has been printed that says if somebody feels that they have controlled the situation of the cheating, okay, and it's not wrong anymore, that they've actually solidified the situation at hand and they're moving on. But because it never teaches them the right from the wrong, they'll actually go on and cheat again. And in percent of the cases that I've done where a situation like this has come up and an erin would come to me and say, can you find out before I go to my friend and see for sure if the wife is cheating, we would actually follow her, find out the facts, and give it back to Aaron. At that time. I could tell you right now over fifty cases that go this way of them, she's definitely still cheating. There is no reason for her not to be. She's controlling it so that she could see where he's at. The only thing that I want to add to this, though, is that when somebody is this obvious if Aaron's being serious that she is coming home late, she's you know, making it obvious she's staying at work at times when she's not supposed to be. And there's another psychological side to this that she might actually be doing it on purpose to show your friend that she's doing something, because maybe indirectly she really wants out. There's that theory too, because when people want out, they tend to be more in your face about it. I don't think at this point both of them know there's been infidelity both of them. Know. You know, the reason why his friends probably allowing some of this controlling is because he was probably on the path of trying to resolve the relationship. They have a kid, and in a weird way, he was probably trying to put his ego behind and say, if this makes her feel better and we'll solidify this relationship, maybe I'll allow it because I'm really not doing anything anymore. But the fact that she's going on this path is really almost in his face, and psychologically she's at a point where she's say so. But in this case, the question is can't tell his buddy? So the answer I again, I think the answer there is yes, because let happen what needs to happen, and that is let him find out, let the relationship break. It's a bad relationship either look at it, So you might as well let the guy live a free life and let let you know, let them they're both not right for each other, time wasting each other's time. And at the end of the day, Aaron, if you tell him like I think you should, you will basically, and I think we both we all concur in here that you should tell him. Um, the bottom line is I don't think he'll be shocked. I think you're gonna be I think you're going to be shocked to know he obviously has like some type of hunge. I don't think he's um somebody that doesn't realize something might be going on. I think he was looking the other way to see if he could solidify this. So you're gonna look like a good concerned friends. So share nos tell him. So here's what I want to ask you. Now, share, Can you tell us what are some what what are some sites that we can go to to find out if our significant others have other like other email addresses that we don't know if they're using those. Okay, that's a good question. I want that. I say we come back with that. That's fine, Okay, I want to come back with that. I also want to come back with it because, like you know, as a p I, it's great you can follow, you take some pictures, but I want hard evidence. I want text messages, I want email addresses. Well, I want to how do you get all that stuff? What do you get from? I want that you want this downlow on company operates. I want to know, seriously, I want to know who you guys like using apps like Intellius and stuff like that. If you go in the Apple Store, you can see like like you can see where people called you from phone numbers, do reverse search. Look, I want that, yeah, but we have much better stuff than that. That's why you need to come to me. Yeah, you know what, there's a lot of ways now that that things are being blocked and what are also some signs like what are some some short tell short tell time? What is it tell tell tale signs that you're significant? There is cheating? What are they give me? Like like a list, like give me like a top ten or top five? Will you know? That'd be great? And then we can like some of the all fair heads like damn, mom, No it's not up to me, but I want to know what the signs are. You know, there are some short signs of it and there's listen, you always have to look at your own relationships separately. Don't go crazy over this, right, but the bottom line is is there are some things that are just there that you should take notice. Right. I want that, I want all that. It was awesome, next show All fair heads listen. If you guys like anything that you heard to take please feel free you gotta email us at the Affair Show at gmail dot com, drop us a tweet, hashtag share Nose Affair Show. I will be out til next week. Yeah, we're out next week. We're on vacation. It was back in a couple of weeks. Show back, see you soon. Everyone say, Jacklo, Shacklo. What do you know? You all shut it? Just watch. I guess I just want to know